In-Home Aides

Some in-home aides get on my nerves; I really don’t understand them. My aide is very moody. Today, she came in without saying a word and didn’t say a word to me all the day. She usually does that if I cancel the day before or if I do something to upset her; but I didn’t do anything to my knowledge. We even watched “The Bachelor” and “Parenthood”; shows which she usually talks about to me while we watch them and still not a word. It seems weird to me because even if she’s upset with me, she usually talks if we watch shows that she likes.  Not today. There is another thing I don’t like about her.  She doesn’t rub my feet and back with lotion like she’s supposed to; my feet get dried skin on them and she doesn’t dust. But if I change aides, I might get worse one. Some aides make me do stuff that I don’t want to like they are my boss; I hate that. At least this one leaves me alone and let me do what I want. Does anyone have this problem with in-home aides or is it just me? Comment on this post or email me at cp.princess70@gmail.com. Or anyone can email me about any of my posts. Take care and hope to hear from you soon.

My Free Day

My in-home aide called in sick today. I’m kind of glad. I got a lot of work done; both for church and my blog. When my aide is here, I feel I can’t work on what I need to do because I need to keep her company, entertain her or I should be resting when someone is here so I don’t get a lot to do. And if mom knew I was here alone, I wouldn’t get anything done because she would had gotten me, even if she should not because of her foot. However, now I’m hurting from sitting in my wheelchair all the day. Only if I had a recliner on wheels like this:
 

Would you like to have one too?

"Normal” People

“Normal” people don’t know how lucky they are, don’t they? It didn’t come to me just this weekend; I thought about it many, many times. But, this past weekend, I was in a very bad mood. Nothing was going right for me especially on Saturday. I went to my doctor’s office to get blood drawn, but my doctor was supposed  to order a test to check if I was starting menopause, she didn’t and she was off that day. If I could talk; I would had asked the main doctor if he could put the order in for that test, but my husband wouldn’t asked.

On Sunday, we got three trees for our empty front yard. We got in an agreement for nothing; I was just emotional. Like I told my husband that I prefer selling this house than fixing it up; but that is another story. My husband planted them in wrong places if you ask me. I just wish I could walk and had planted them myself.

When I think about wives who complain about doing things themselves, I get sick to my stomach. They are so lazy. They don’t know how lucky they are to be able to clean their houses, change oil in their cars, work in the yard, have children & take care of them and other simple things. I would give anything to be able to do those things and a lot of other things. I know that it is hard to not be able to do things that we would love to do; so let’s stick together and talk to each other. Please comment on this post or email me at cp.princess70@gmail.com. Or anyone can email me about any of my posts. Take care and hope to hear from you soon

“Getting Along”

This is a devotional that I wrote in September 2010. I hope you enjoy it. Let me know whatever you think.

“Getting Along”

  Read 1 Corinthians 6:1-11 I am saying this to shame you. Isn’t there anyone in all the church who is wise enough to decide these issues? -1 Corinthians 6:33 (NIV)

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I know that it is hard to get along with people even with other Christians. There are a lot of different personalities that get in the way. Sometimes those different personalities work toward our advantages; but when our personalities are too much different, we can’t work. And when that happens, we should agree to disagree. It is sad that we can’t just get along. But if we have all same kind of personalities, life would be boring, no excitement or surprises; just the same thing day after day. So we should thank God for making us difference and life exciting.

Prayer: O God, please keep on helping us getting along with others. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen

Thought of the Month:  Sometimes we should agree to disagree.

Prayer Focus: Those who can’t get along.

Music

I love music especially country music, but I love soft rock and loved songs. To me, music is more than music and words; it talks to my soul. Music tells stories except hard rock. I can’t understand hard rock. It helps me emotionally to listen to music. When I listen to music when I’m upset or sad, it helps me to cry and get it out and if I’m in a good mood, it makes me to want to dance. My husband said music is just words and music but I highly disagree. Sometimes, I like to change the words in songs to make them relate more to my life and he thinks that I’m nuts. I just love songs that tell stories. They talk to my heart and soul. Does music talk to anyone else? Comment on this post or email me at cp.princess70@gmail.com. Or anyone can email me about any of my posts. Take care and hope to hear from you soon.

The Movie, "The Help"

Yesterday, my aide and I watched the movie, The Help”. That was so a great movie, both heartwarming and funny. I loved the relationship between Skeeter and the maids, caring. I laughed so hard at the pie part, Minny really paid Hilly back, didn’t she? LOL. Those maids, especially Aibileen, reminded me of my favorite in-home aide I ever had. She was the sweetest; she used to spoil me but did all what I needed. Some may say that she spoiled me, but I say she did whatever I needed. She used to rub my feet and back for about one hour and now my feet and legs are so dry. She left me because my friend said a remark that she took as racist, I didn’t think anything about it. I miss her everyday very much! In my honestly opinion, black aides are the sweetest. They seem like old-fashioned grandmas.  If anyone wants to talk about your aides, comment on this post or email me at cp.princess70@gmail.com. Or anyone can email me about any of my posts. Take care and hope to hear from you soon. I know having an aide is not easy and we all need someone to talk to.

Making Money

 Today’s post is sort of a request for your help. I started my blog in hope to make money so please go to my blog everyday and click on the ads that are on it. And please give me ideas on how to make my blog better and interesting. I could blog about my shows I watch if it would be more interesting. Just let me know what you think. As I said in my post, “January 28^th Money”, I just wish I had my own income so we could have spending money. I’m tired of watching our money just because the government won’t help the disabled. Please help me by simply click on any ads on my blog, http://dealingwlifewcp.blogspot.com. And remember to give me and ideas. Many thanks!

Workout

Last night, my husband and I were supposed to the fitness center, so he could workout; but his ankle started hurting. Oh God, I wish that he would get into exercising. God knows he needs it. I’m worried about his weight and health. He just sees me “nagging”. I wish that I knew how to get him to understand that I just am worried about him, his weight and health. And yes, I’m worried about what I would do if something happens to him before me or if he becomes not able to take care of me. I know that is being selfish, but I can’t help worrying about my future, can I? Yes, there’s a part of me that doesn’t like how big he has gotten; in the belly. Maybe if I could workout with him, he might get interested in it, but I can’t. I wish I could.  Does anyone have any ideas to get my husband to get into exercising without “nagging”, please comment on this post or email me at cp.princess70@gmail.com. Come on, we, wives have to stay together. Thanks! Or anyone can email me about any of my posts. Take care and hope to hear from you soon.

Friends

I always wanted close friends, but I never had any. I have acquaintances but not friends; you know friends like on the 90’s “90210” or “Friends”. I was jealous over my brothers and their friends. They got to hang out and go to places while I was stuck at home with mom. But that is not all I missed from not having any friends; I have not had a friend to confide in. I didn’t have a chance to go out with friends; just because I have Cerebral Palsy and that sucks. I blame that fact that I couldn’t walk, take care of myself: I couldn’t take myself to bathroom or even feed myself. That sucks!!!

I started this blog, besides to try making money, hoping I would make close real friends online so I could share my genuine feelings. Did you who have Cerebral Palsy experience not having any friends? Comment on this post or email me at cp.princess70@gmail.com. Or anyone can email me about any of my posts. Take care and hope to hear from you soon. Come on, let us get know each other; what you say?!

The Hot Tub

 Today, I finally got to go to the fitness center that has a hot tub and a pool. The hot tub felt so good to me.  I could have stayed in the hot tub all the day, but my husband wanted to get out so we got in the pool which was a big MISTAKE! It was chilly; probably because we just got of the warm hot tub. But some people said that the pool was warmer earlier so I don’t know. I just know that the hot tub was wonderful! Does anyone enjoy a hot tub as much as I do; especially those who has CP?

“The First Step”

“The First Step”

Read Colossians 3:12-17

Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others

 -Colossians 3:13 (NLT)

My friend and I had harsh words and parted angry and unhappy. As I look back, our argument seemed trivial. But she had not taken a step toward making amends. Why, I thought, should I be the one to take the first step?

Later, I read Colossians and I remembered that all through the bible, it says to forgive each other as God forgave us. God wants us to get along and love each other like He does.

A true friendship is very precious. I couldn’t let our friendship fall apart just over a silly argument.  I went to the computer and emailed her.

When we make God's love a part of our lives, we are able to take the first steps to make amends, to "forgive each other; just as the Lord has forgiven."

Prayer Please, God, help us overcome our agreements with each other.  In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.

Thought of the Month: The journey to forgiveness begins with a single step.

Prayer Focus:   Friends who are at odds